Intimacy Coaching & Sexual Wellness & Expression

Board Certified Clinical Sexologist | Gender Affirming | Kink Aware Professional | Queer Life Coach | Ethical Non-Monogamy, Poly Relationship Coaching

Sex Coaching, Intimacy Coaching, Relational Coaching

A sex coach aims to help you create the ethical, authentic sex life that you find most fulfilling, not based on religious propaganda or pseudo-science.

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"Believing that you are addicted to porn and telling yourself that you're unable to control your porn use hurts your well-being. It's not the porn, but the unresolved, unexamined moral conflict. Many of the moral values we were raised with, about sex, race or gender, are no longer fully applicable to the modern world. Because of religious opposition to sexual education, many people struggling with masturbation don’t understand what is normal, or that their sexual interests are healthy. Helping people to consciously examine and consider their religious beliefs about sex, masturbation, and porn with modern, adult, self-determining eyes, may help them reduce the pain and suffering caused by this moral conflict."

According to Abraham Maslow, sex is one of the most very basic of human drives (even more basic than love). Sex educators, coaches and therapists specializing in sexology use this as a guiding principal.

Abraham Maslow suggested in his Hierarchy of Needs that humans are all striving towards the top of the pyramid towards self-actualization and transcendence. Sex, a basic human need, is sometimes confused with love and sexual intimacy, which are higher-order needs. Are you fully self-actualized? Not many of us are- which means most of us can benefit from life coaching.

Do your sexual parts not work the way you think they should? Do your sexual parts not look the way you think they should? You might have a sexual dysfunction. Feel like your sex life is out of control? Put down the "sex addiction" self-help book, and talk to a sex and relational coach who can help you sort through the noise.

Sex has finally come out of the closet. People talk more openly about sexuality now than we have in decades. There are people who claim to be sex experts who want to cure your sex addiction, porn addiction, or masturbation addiction through shame, magical thinking and pseudoscience. Weaponizing your pre-existing fear, guilt and shame surrounding sex drives clicks and makes money.

Conversion therapy is not therapy.

Why do you go to a sex coach?

Issues ranging from working out guilt surrounding masturbation, sexual fantasies, porn, fetishes, dating, sexual identity, gender identity, relationship style, infidelity issues (and often the desire to be consensually non-monogamous) to sexual dysfunctions like premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, painful sex, difficulties become aroused, difficulties achieving or maintaining erections, difficulties with vaginal lubrication, difficulties reaching climax.

Who Goes to Sex Coaching?

Sex coaching is as fitting for singles or people in relationships across the lifespan. Sex is a basic human drive, yet sexuality conflicts affect people from birth to death.

Who seeks sex therapy? Sexual dysfunction prevalence and correlates, and help-seeking among clinical and community samples (Lafortune, et al, 2023)

What Happens in Sex Coaching?

Permission
Broadening your Limited Information about sex
Specific Suggestions & Exercises to try at home
NOT, however, Intensive Therapy – A Medical Treatment practiced by licensed mental health and/or medical practitioners. The licensed practice of therapy requires a diagnosis, which is not within the scope of a wellness coach.

This model is called the PLISSIT Model in clinical sexology. Where licensed therapists may provide therapy, coaches provide support outside of therapy and mental illness healthcare models.

Psychedelic intimacy: Altered states of consciousness in romantic relationships (Neubert, et al, 2024) Three themes with subsequent subthemes were identified, portraying couples' experiences during psychedelic-induced altered states of consciousness: navigating anxiety (subthemes: novelty, preparation, shifting environment, and calming presence), reshaping practices (subthemes: excessive worrying, spirited discussions, and straight talking), and encountering bliss (subthemes: meeting the unexpected, the beauty around us, leaving the everyday behind, and breaking through). Couples' experiences with classic psychedelics align with criteria for interactional intimacy (i.e., self-exposure, positive involvement, and shared understanding), but their distinct nature warrants a novel definition of psychedelic intimacy. The unique pair bonding during shared psychedelic experiences could be utilized by psychedelic-assisted couples therapy.