4. Cognitive Distortions, Meaning

After recognizing and allowing what is, we can start to investigate our thoughts & beliefs about our adversities and triggers. Our distorted thoughts (cognitive distortions) lead us to self-defeating beliefs about ourselves, others and life in general.

Types of Cognitive Distortions

All or Nothing Thinking You see things in black and white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.
Overgeneralization You see a single negative event as a never ending pattern of defeat.
Mental Filter You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that discolors the entire beaker of water.
Disqualifying the Positive You reject positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences. You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion.
Jumping to Conclusions You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you and you don’t bother to check this out.
The Fortune Teller Error You anticipate that things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction is an already established fact.
Magnification (Catastrophizing) or Minimization You exaggerate the importance of things (such as your goof up or someone else’s achievement), or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or the other fellow’s imperfections).
Emotional Reasoning You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are– “I feel it; therefore, it must be true.”
Should Statements You try to motivate yourself with should and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward others, you feel anger and resentment.
Labeling This is an extreme form of over generalization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.” When someone else’s behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label to him: “He’s a jerk.”
Personalization and Blame With personalization, you see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which in fact you were not primarily responsible. With blame, you blame other people or your circumstances for problems, and overlook ways that you might be contributing to the problem.
Underestimating your Ability to Cope is where you doubt your ability to manage stressors you experience in the world.

In an Absolute State: Elevated Use of Absolutist Words Is a Marker Specific to Anxiety, Depression, and Suicidal Ideation (2018)

New research links meaning in life to lower depression rates

A new review of over 250,000 individuals reveals that having a clear sense of meaning in life is consistently linked to lower levels of depression, though the strength of this protection varies widely across different ages and cultural backgrounds.

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A three-level meta-analysis of the relationship between meaning in life and depression (2026)

Cognitive distortions in patients with social anxiety disorder: Comparison of a clinical group and healthy controls (2018)

APA PsycNet

Rational emotive behavior therapy, 2nd ed. (2019) "REBT is the founding cognitive, multimodal, and integrative therapy approach. Albert Ellis originated it in the 1950s, and other cognitive approaches followed. From its start, the approach included philosophical as well as experiential, emotional, and behavioral techniques."

(2025): Cognitive distortions are defined as “systematic errors in… thinking… [that]… maintain the patient’s belief in the validity of his negative concepts despite the presence of contradictory evidence”¹. Cognitive distortions are present in all individuals and can be defined as systematic biases that arise in response to specific situations, influencing the way both internal and external information is processed. Generally, these biases or distortions do not adhere to the principles of logic, probabilistic reasoning, or plausibility². **They interfere with perception and decision-making**³ **and perpetua pre-existing cognitive schemata**⁴, **which may be maladaptive or erroneous.**

Self-objectification theory posits that objectification of people’s bodies, as a synonym for self-worth, translates into body surveillance and dissatisfaction, which has a negative impact on both social and emotional adjustment. According to empirical data based on cognitive models, body dissatisfaction translates into cognitive distraction during sexual activity, affecting sexual response.

Exploring the Roles of Body Dissatisfaction, Cognitive Distraction, and Age in Sexual Distress Related to Sexual Function and Sexual Satisfaction in Men: An Extended Understanding Using a Moderated Mediation Model (2025)